Chapter 3 of my textbook is proving very interesting!
That, and my kitten is currently trying to eat my fingers while I type. No, this isn't some tiny kitten. This is a fluffy, teenager cat that basically is going through an "angst" stage and wanting to eat every and anything that moves.
Ew. His nose is wet.
Are you short or tall? Thin or heavy? Did you go through puberty early or late? How have these factors affected your development as a person?
I am an individual that falls within the "short" category by 1". I would say I am average, if not on the thin side. Definitely not heavy or overweight. I went through puberty at a young age, but also did not develop in other areas until college - and that was also due to gaining weight.
It was definitely hard because even though in sixth grade we talked about periods and our bodies changing, I had teachers give me a hard time when I asked to go to the bathroom at the same time every day for a week. I didn't want to go to change the products in between recess because that meant people might see what I was doing. It was difficult having teachers not be there to help you. It was also tough that I go my period earlier than everyone else, but I didn't develop any breasts.
Having boys call you, "2x4, flat as a board" literally from 7th to 12th grade, was awful. It impacted me in such a way, that when I got to college and boys showed interest in me, I dismissed it because why would they like me? I don't have boobs. There were a couple that I'd flat out ask them, and they were very confused because "boobs aren't everything." It was great to have some young men that were maturing enough not to be focusing completely on one body part, but it was awful because I still wonder if I'm good enough - based off the idea I'm not pretty if I don't have a cup size over a C.
I think it was hard because having my period sooner than everyone made me kind of serious. I was dealing with body pain before everyone else. I was dealing with the embarrassment of trying to hide a tampon in my sleeve. I was gaining the understanding of what having a period meant for my body, and that thought - that I could have kids now, was terrifying.
Overall, I think puberty made me develop mentally faster, while my body was. My indicated that my body was "now a woman," and with that I felt I needed to become a grown up. It was also hard that by acting more mature and serious than others my age, they became annoyed with me.
It's really cool for me to come to college though and be able to take a step back and learn about what is and isn't important in life. And be able to pick the people you actually want to hang out with, haha. My graduating class was 42, so you really don't get much of choice.
There it is! My reflections for Ed Psych!
Monday, September 26, 2016
Sunday, September 25, 2016
Back, But Slow
Hello fellow teachers!
I should be finishing up an educational psychology quiz right now, but for some reason this blog popped back into my head, and it caused me wanting to write! (Don't tell my boyfriend though - he thinks blogging is for hipsters. I will change his thoughts. ;] )
Since this year I'm working full time at the Family Video in time, I'm only going part time to school this year. I had to make some tough decisions on which classes I would take, simply because some are only offered during the fall, spring, etc. I'm hoping what I'm thinking so far will work out. I would hate to go do my student teaching, and then have to come back for an art class or something.
I would like to keep this blog up and going though! In my Ed Psych textbook, there's actually these small things called, "Ed Psych and Me." It basically poses questions that get the audience thinking about the text they just read. I think this would be great for me to take advantage of in my own personal time to reflect on what I am learning. :)
1. How did your parents raise you? How did this compare to your friends' experiences? How did their parenting influence your development? If you plan to have children, how will the way you raise them compare to the way you were raised?
Parenting style: general patterns of interacting with and disciplining children
Authoritative parents: set high expectations, are warm and responsive. Firm, caring, and consistent.
Authoritarian parents: high expectations, but tend to be cold and unresponsive. Expect conformity, don't explain reasons for rules, and don't encourage verbal give-and-take.
Permissive parents: warm, but hold few expectations for their children. Children - used to getting their own way - have troubles relating to their peers
Uninvolved parents: few expectations for their children, and are cold and unresponsive. Little interest in their children
All right, going forward with that information.
My parents, I would say, were a mix of authoritative and authoritarian parents. My dad was a farmer and most of the time, he was out in the fields or in the milk parlor, so he really didn't do a lot of raising/discipling. It was more so my mom. Looking back, I would say she was definitely warm and responsive, but there were MANY times growing up in the years where rules would be set and the expectation to follow them would be set - even if the rule hadn't been explained. Through such, I struggled with feelings of respect and love, and yet, also intense fear for my mother for most of the years of my life.
In comparison with friends, I would say my parents were MUCH more strict. Especially in regards to social events. We were not allowed to hang with friends on school nights. We were not allowed to stay out pass 10 o'clock on the weekends. We could only spend time with friends of the same gender. And my parents would call ahead to make sure that that was what we were actually doing. My siblings and I also had to make choices if more than one friend asked to hang out with us. On top of that, we were usually only allowed to do a special "weekend hangout" with a friend once a month or so.
I think that really impacted my development with friends because while other girls were spending almost every weekend having a sleep over, or staying up late on a weeknight to watch a show that EVERYONE was watching, my siblings and I were almost isolated when we were at school participating in drama, choir, band, and athletic events. How my mom disciplined me also affected me in a kind of negative way. Let me further explain. I love my mother, and respect everything she has to say. But, I'm almost 23 years old and up until last year I took her opinions as "the word of God." She had something to say about my life, I listened and did whatever she told me. Once I broke up with a guy I had been dating for a three years, I was able to not only step back from that, but my entire life completely and see different aspects that I didn't like and that weren't helping me in my development - my mom's stubbornness and opinionated behavior was overwhelming.
Despite that, I do feel my mom and dad succeeded in developing a strong, independent woman who is creative, unique and a leader. I do strive to be an authoritative parent - one who is loving, firm in rules, but also responsive and can explain the rules rather than just expect the child to take what I say at face value. Yeah, there will probably be some times where I would very much like that child to take what I say and no question it, but children are creative and wonderful!
So, there's my thoughts for the day. :) Peace out, girl scout.
I should be finishing up an educational psychology quiz right now, but for some reason this blog popped back into my head, and it caused me wanting to write! (Don't tell my boyfriend though - he thinks blogging is for hipsters. I will change his thoughts. ;] )
Since this year I'm working full time at the Family Video in time, I'm only going part time to school this year. I had to make some tough decisions on which classes I would take, simply because some are only offered during the fall, spring, etc. I'm hoping what I'm thinking so far will work out. I would hate to go do my student teaching, and then have to come back for an art class or something.
I would like to keep this blog up and going though! In my Ed Psych textbook, there's actually these small things called, "Ed Psych and Me." It basically poses questions that get the audience thinking about the text they just read. I think this would be great for me to take advantage of in my own personal time to reflect on what I am learning. :)
1. How did your parents raise you? How did this compare to your friends' experiences? How did their parenting influence your development? If you plan to have children, how will the way you raise them compare to the way you were raised?
Parenting style: general patterns of interacting with and disciplining children
Authoritative parents: set high expectations, are warm and responsive. Firm, caring, and consistent.
Authoritarian parents: high expectations, but tend to be cold and unresponsive. Expect conformity, don't explain reasons for rules, and don't encourage verbal give-and-take.
Permissive parents: warm, but hold few expectations for their children. Children - used to getting their own way - have troubles relating to their peers
Uninvolved parents: few expectations for their children, and are cold and unresponsive. Little interest in their children
All right, going forward with that information.
My parents, I would say, were a mix of authoritative and authoritarian parents. My dad was a farmer and most of the time, he was out in the fields or in the milk parlor, so he really didn't do a lot of raising/discipling. It was more so my mom. Looking back, I would say she was definitely warm and responsive, but there were MANY times growing up in the years where rules would be set and the expectation to follow them would be set - even if the rule hadn't been explained. Through such, I struggled with feelings of respect and love, and yet, also intense fear for my mother for most of the years of my life.
In comparison with friends, I would say my parents were MUCH more strict. Especially in regards to social events. We were not allowed to hang with friends on school nights. We were not allowed to stay out pass 10 o'clock on the weekends. We could only spend time with friends of the same gender. And my parents would call ahead to make sure that that was what we were actually doing. My siblings and I also had to make choices if more than one friend asked to hang out with us. On top of that, we were usually only allowed to do a special "weekend hangout" with a friend once a month or so.
I think that really impacted my development with friends because while other girls were spending almost every weekend having a sleep over, or staying up late on a weeknight to watch a show that EVERYONE was watching, my siblings and I were almost isolated when we were at school participating in drama, choir, band, and athletic events. How my mom disciplined me also affected me in a kind of negative way. Let me further explain. I love my mother, and respect everything she has to say. But, I'm almost 23 years old and up until last year I took her opinions as "the word of God." She had something to say about my life, I listened and did whatever she told me. Once I broke up with a guy I had been dating for a three years, I was able to not only step back from that, but my entire life completely and see different aspects that I didn't like and that weren't helping me in my development - my mom's stubbornness and opinionated behavior was overwhelming.
Despite that, I do feel my mom and dad succeeded in developing a strong, independent woman who is creative, unique and a leader. I do strive to be an authoritative parent - one who is loving, firm in rules, but also responsive and can explain the rules rather than just expect the child to take what I say at face value. Yeah, there will probably be some times where I would very much like that child to take what I say and no question it, but children are creative and wonderful!
So, there's my thoughts for the day. :) Peace out, girl scout.
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